I am so sorry to read your story. You have landed on a great support group here and will find a thousand caring friends. I read you trying to decipher the meaning of all the DB advice and apply it to your own situation with great hope of salvaging your family. Being a man who holds value in commitment and vows before God I hope it all works out for you. However...........Being a few years past the divorce and several past the BD I would like to inform you that there is an amazing world out here past the carnage you are currently experiencing. There has never been a better time to be a middle aged person in the free world and I for one am loving it.
I would encourage you no matter whether it is your intention of winning back your husband or some potentially incredible guy in the future to do the things you did back when you were single. Put a little differently than the recommendations of this site, use this moment to get back to the vibrant hottie you were when your future husband first noticed you. Number one get in the gym. Two pick up the hobbies and talents you enjoyed before you launched yourself into being the worlds greatest mom and wife and get back to being an amazing you. Lastly keep in mind that half of the single people in the world are men and some of us are looking for someone exactly like you.
I am not necessarily trying to make you think about life beyond your marriage but I assure you that there is one and it is amazing. This hot young lady you will get back to being will not only attract the delivery man but will also catch the eye of your husband. I am pulling for you always and will pray for you.
God Bless, Mark
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
