what DB approaches are right for me?

[oceangrl]

I hear what you're saying. It makes sense. He definitely fired me as the wife during the long term E and PA. But, if his big complaint it not feeling emotional connection, will detachment work toward that? That's the one place I have trouble with clarity.

I see where it is a huge help with building my own self-esteem and worth, I need to GAL for sure. I just got back from running this morning, so that was one of the things on my list. I see where it promotes toward possible divorce. And I definitely am not interested in pressure and pursuit. But is it avoiding speaking with him or interacting at all when we are in the same house? I am heading to that thread now.