If at all possible, I would leave the separation as neutral as possible
WE/Mom needs some time to figure things out Sometimes M have bumps... no ones fault..Its not their fault We both love you very much, and I am hopefull we can work it out
It will bring up feelings probably in all of them, especially in the older 3 kids I would then listen to them with a loving heart and offer counseling as needed
I had to spend many hours listening to my then D age 11...She took it hard
I always kept it neutral, in the later years I also said things like Dad is not well. once it became very clear that he was indeed in MLC and sick But I never said a bad word about him to my kids Today they are fully grown, and very awesome people.
Over time they will really know the absolute truth, so I would be honest but not brutally
The house, I would suggest if at all possible for the stability of the kids to keep She should be the one who moves especially until D if it comes to that If she wants to live there, then that is something you will have to deal with
I think if the LBS stays in the home, the chances may be better for restoring the M, but not always as in Ha Whos thread I dont know your full situation so this may not be possible
The idea of her being a room mates may be difficult especially for you.. But Im sure you can do it and there are others here who still live with the MLCer as long as you know, this will take a lot of time whether she moves or stays if it is MLC and she may get worse either way in replay
maybe if you want to give this more time, avoid the sale of the house talk for now.. If she wants to move out, you cant stop her..but the kids will be better off staying in the home for school ect..
I get the touch and gos and understand you want to save this M, but all you can do is your end Take care of you
get busier, find a new activities, be there for the home and kids be the stable parent..they will need that.
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