what DB approaches are right for me?

[oceangrl]

Here's something else I'm struggling with....He gets his affection from his kids. So when he comes home or walks in the door, he says hi to me, but has a big hug and "Hi Honey!" or "I've missed you so much!" or "you look amazing!" etc etc. Basically, the greeting and acknowledgment yearn to have. I feel invisible. We went to a town square to look at Christmas lights a few weeks ago, and it was the perfect example of what happens so often: he held both our kids hands with each one of his as we walked on the sidewalk, which meant that I was forced to walk behind them alone. I would never do that to someone; I think it's so selfish and rude. Those are the times when I get so angry because I'm tired of feeling rejection and invisibility. How do you handle this?

Is detachment truly a wise strategy? It seems so opposite of what you are taught to do: lean toward them, don't withdraw, love them, reach for them.

I am so afraid of making more mistakes.