Oh, yeah he's guilty all right of something. It might be because of the drinking and staying out late, but I would continue to observe him. When they can't look at you, that is guilty and shame and they know that they've done something wrong. Just like kids do something wrong and can't look at mom when she walks in the room.
I'm not the least bit surprised by the BD being done by text. They are just plain cowards.
How I finally confirmed that there was a third party in my marriage were the receipts I found in his clothes as well as cleaning out his car one day. I happened to be cleaning out his car one day and there was this McDonald's bag punched up on the floor board with $200 in it and there were receipts for something purchased from CVS and several Christmas cards, a stuffed Rudolph Reindeer and some cheap jewelry from the local department store. Dumb me, threw the receipts away and when I told my mother about it...she said did those out of your trash and save them and go to CVS to find out what he purchased. Well, I knew the staff at the local CVS and I had no problem asking them what that one item was...the person looked at me and said...you don't know what this is? I said no...it was for some new condoms that had come on the market. Well, that just did it for me. I kept those receipts and just waited for the proper time to confront him about them and I did several weeks ago when he came to the residence for his black trash bag luggage.
Well, my story began long before I found DB, but I seriously doubt that my outcome would have been any different after I became a member here. DB provided me with the tools to make me a better person and how to become a survivor and that is why I am still here today...attempting to pay it forward so that others do not make the same mistakes that I did so long ago.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
