I am so sorry that he's still out at night...it's hard to determine if he's out w/his buddies or w/OW. We can't assume anything, but can you smell alcohol on him or his clothes? Any other strange odors on the clothes, i.e., perfume? Does he have difficulty looking you in the eye when he sees you or acts guilty around you?
Many of them are cowards and won't leave on their own, but they don't have an issue pushing our buttons to make us angry enough that we put them out. Maybe he is trying to push your buttons and bait you into an argument.
He is absolutely one of the biggest cowards I have ever met. He gave me the DB by text. He could not even tell me to my face.
He has difficulty looking me in the eye when he sees me and acts very guilty. That has improved a little but there have definitely been mornings when he came in and tried to avoid me. Often he comes in so late in the morning that I have already left for work or to take kids to an extracurricular activity; therefore, many times I dont have an opportunity to see if he smells like alcohol or perfume. The few times I have smelled him, there was some alcohol on his breath and he was wearing lots of cologne, but I could not smell perfume.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
