DS9/DnJ - Thank you both so much. Having a place to ask questions (sometimes ones your gut already knows the answer to but the head is clouded), vent, and explore options is invaluable. You are correct DnJ ...I like this and will copy it onto my phone: ”keep business as business and your healing path as your path”. Such an obvious statement but one that requires focus. Being a people pleaser makes some of this journey very difficult in the sense of remembering to look out for me and that I come first, but I am doing remarkably better than I was a few months ago!
Originally Posted by DnJ
This puts space, a buffer, between H’s antics / possible monstering and you. Something you need; no point fighting H. That is the high road. Not fighting H. He wants this, remember? He just wants it his way, and that is not how it works. Focus on you and your financial security and protection. That is the business of what you are currently embroiled in. Keep emotions out if this by utilizing your lawyer. Your emotions will change, however this deal will not. Make sure you are protected. I remember how bad this all felt going through it; feelings really do change. Do not base decisions upon temporary emotions. DnJ
Thank you. Emotionally I’m being plagued by going after B = vindictive and that this will escalate things horribly and even leak onto external relationships with extended family. BUT seeing your above words in black and white DnJ really helps...especially about the “high road” and “ emotions changing, the deal will not.”
I’m so fortunate to have found this resource and a group of “stranger friends” lol!! Hugs
