You are received some very good advice; the business side of this is something most of us have never experienced either.
Originally Posted by Kindly
Do I continue to take the high road of kindness and point this out (from the law standpoint) and brace for Hs monster mode as well as potentially tipping him off to hide assets or react in any other negative way? Or hand over to L and potentially let him step in it for fraudulent claims on official doc? This is why my gut tells me his L did not fill this out.
I know it’s hard to do; keep business as business and your healing path as your path.
Taking the high road, remaining kind, is an admirable and achievable goal. Pointing out H’s errors in separation/divorce documentation or flaws in his strategies or his life choices or etc... has nothing to do with you walking your path in a kind and high road manner.
H controls H. You control you. He’s going to do what he wants.
Hand stuff over to your lawyer and let your L analyze and tell you what your options are. You can make your informed decisions then, and for the most part - listen to your lawyer’s advice, you paid for it.
This puts space, a buffer, between H’s antics / possible monstering and you. Something you need; no point fighting H. That is the high road. Not fighting H. He wants this, remember? He just wants it his way, and that is not how it works.
Focus on you and your financial security and protection. That is the business of what you are currently embroiled in. Keep emotions out if this by utilizing your lawyer. Your emotions will change, however this deal will not. Make sure you are protected. I remember how bad this all felt going through it; feelings really do change. Do not base decisions upon temporary emotions.
I would consider letting your L do most of the work; your sanity and well-being is much more important than a few bucks. And as perviously stated it buffers you, somewhat removing you from the pushing of this separation forward, letting H decide when he wants to stop. You, well actually your L, is just responding to H’s demands.
Stay strong.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
