Frankly I’d hand the reins to your L to follow up with the disclosure, valuations etc. Your L can set out the obligations your h has and give a cordial reminder about the law. That gives a better level of separation between you and h and takes the pressure off you.
I get what you’re saying about keeping on the high road. But this is about your financial security and frankly it’s not your call whether or not he chooses to be open and frank with his financial position. Seriously, if you’re worried about undervalued assets, hidden assets etc tell your L now so they can take immediate steps to safeguard your position
I get it about saving costs with diy legal stuff but sometimes that’s false economy. Why not ask your L what groundwork you can actually do to save costs?
Cheers ds
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24