Speak to your L about the prospects and options for a psychological report through the court system if XW drags it through that process. Not sure if these are available in the USA
Here in oz we have court appointed lawyers who act for children in certain situations. Again speak to your L about whether those options exist.
Good luck db brother
Me: early 40's XW: nearly 50 T: 15 M: 5 BD: Jan 19 S:10 SS: 22 SD: 24