Thx for adding to my thread DS9...sorry you find yourself here as well.
Originally Posted by DS9
Hi Kindly
Sorry you're going through all this.
Here in Oz it is clear if you know where to look. There are even fact sheets prepared by the relevant courts that set out these things, and set out how the spouses have duties to the COurt and one another to actively disclose their financial situation, as opposed to being chased and followed up by their spouse to reveal.
There may be similar fact sheets for your locale. I dont know. If there are, these can be used as an objective reference for your H, so rather than questions or comments coming from you, they are objective and what the law requires and more readily accepted.
You are bang on. I did a bunch more research over the last day and have found some legit documents stating that you can be charged for not disclosing accurate financial info or that doc will be void...this puts me in an awkward position. Do I continue to take the high road of kindness and point this out (from the law standpoint) and brace for Hs monster mode as well as potentially tipping him off to hide assets or react in any other negative way? Or hand over to L and potentially let him step in it for fraudulent claims on official doc? This is why my gut tells me his L did not fill this out. I know I can’t avoid it but I DO NOT want to be tricked into being the one that starts S/D process. He is the guy with a plan after all ....trying to be smart with a very clouded head. Thx for letting me lay it all out here.
Originally Posted by DS9
I assume in USA you need to ascribe value to each asset? Businesses are hard to value. Here we have forensic accountants or business valuers. Your L may not be qualified to assess whether the business is worth what H says. You may wish to have the business properly valued for peace of mind. To me, your comment that he was dumbfounded and angry you even brought it up is telling - he likely wouldnt care if it wasnt worth anything.
Get L advice and get it early. Weigh up the potential $ cost for your L communicating everything on your behalf as against the cost to your emotional wellbeing and sanity in doing it yourself.
Good luck!
Currently researching more about forensic accountants because it’s $$$$$$ to get B evaluated. But if it must be done then it must be done. I have another consult and will now have some new questions to explore. It’s stressful but empowering and you make an excellent point about also considering sanity/ emotional well-being somewhere in this mix.
