WAW - is it too late?

[RVM]

I think it would be beneficial for you to ramp up the GAL and leave the house in the evenings several times a week. You mentioned that she has been going out for drinks before she comes home. I think you should be ready to leave when she gets there. Go out and do something. Be vague. Tell her there are some things you want to do and leave it at that. Make her wonder what you're doing while she's picking out clothes and rubbing stuff on her face...

Yeah, I've started doing that to a degree. It is a little difficult with the ages of our daughters. We alternate picking them up from school and spend time with them as a family until they go to bed.

But, after they've gone to bed, I've gone to the gym, which is different than my regular schedule. But, it isn't mysterious as she'll see I'm clearly going there. I do need to find some other night activities though. The last two nights I used our home office with the door shut. Coincidentally enough, that entailed reading here and starting the DR book. She came in a couple times to discuss minor kid logistics.

I did tell her the night before that I may not join her and the girls for a long weekend trip to her family's place next month. Missing something like that would be a first for me. That really threw her back when I said that. What are your thoughts on that? I think the girls may be upset if I didn't go.