what DB approaches are right for me?

[oceangrl]

Thank you for all your advice! I will read those threads today.

Things that work are counter-intuitive. For example, you work on the relationship by not working on the relationship. You have to fight every urge you have and not talk about it. Fight every urge to go to him. When he comes to you, you have to be the one to end the interaction first.

This is what I need to work on asap. And it is a strong urge for me to fight! My love language is words so I have to fight the urge to talk about it. I have to stop thinking about it in my head as well.