Update... met up with WW last night and spoke for 5+ hours.
I was pretty surgical, so not a lot of emotion from my end. She just said that she had a lot of time to think, and she recognizes the value I bring to the relationship more so than the affection that she was seeking, and expressed that she would like to either move back or work on the relationship. I pretty much confronted her on living with OM, and said that I don't see a path back at this point. Maybe years down the road after we both move on, clean break, and date other people. I think she was a bit shocked and holding back tears, and saying that this will be one of her biggest regret in life.
I ended up asking for the home keys back from her, so she can't just drop in and out. Discussed how/what assets will need to be split up, and she asked that I put together some numbers.
It's a bit of bitter sweet... because even yesterday, we can talk and laugh about so many things. But honestly, now that I am detached, I can't envision being intimate physically and emotionally with her again. Whenever I do envision reconciliation, I just see her struggling with a clean no contact with OM and more of the same lies again.
I did grab food and drinks with her after, and dropped her off at OM's place since it was like 1 am at that point. I know it's a chump move, but I'm done DB'ing, so she can think of me however she likes. She did drunk text me 2 am about still staying over?
In summary, DB'ing works at least up to this point. Unfortunately, I won't be able to provide any future insights into how real her turnaround is, or how reconciliation and piecing works.
