Newbie.. I’m confused because when I read your response, it appears that we are recommending the same thing. I think you misread my post.
Btw... I’m not projecting anything. 95% of the time there is an OP involved. I’ve read hundreds of sitchs and threads and watched it play out time and time again. So many people come on here certain there is no OP involved and then three to six months later they find out different. I was one of those people. Everyone on here told me to prepare myself for that discovery and I am glad I took their advice even though I still didn’t believe it. They also told me, regardless of an OP or not, I needed to move forward, drop expectations, GAL like crazy, detach and get out of his way because nothing I did to try to change his mind would bring him back if he had truly decided he was done. I needed to let him go to get me back. If I hadn’t done that, and instead I had hung my hopes on everything he said and did that looked like he might possibly change his mind, I am confident I would still be a mess today... and also still divorced.
Not trying to be a downer. I would love nothing more than for the new people on here to have a different ending than I did. I really would. I just know it is unlikely...especially if the things they do are done to try to get their S back. Letting go...really letting go...is the only way to truly get through this.
