I’ve got a very close friend that lives in another state. I respect him very much and he is a devoted Christian family man. His advice for me is to get a divorce ASAP. One point he makes that really scares me is about my son. He thinks that my 13yr old son has already told me things like, “You only care about mom and that I let her tell me what to do etc..”. He thinks my son will eventually lose respect for me and in turn will choose to live with my W because he thinks she is the stronger person.
This really scares me as I plan on having him with me the next 4 years and being able to coach him and spend a lot of time with him. In reading, “Love must be tough”, Dobson cites several situations where the kids end up resenting and not respecting the spouse that put up with the affair. In some instances they blamed the betrayed spouse due to not taking action.
What are your thoughts on this? Anyone experience this and I guess there is no real way of knowing what may happen down the road? I have been truthful with both sons and have excluded details. Unfortunately he has heard our conversations so he knows some details in regards to them talking and meeting up but no specific details. I’ve tried my best to keep that from him and to never mention it while in the home.
