Don't forget any IRA's, CD's, stocks and bonds that he has or you both have need to be addressed. Won't he have a pension when he is of retirement age? Your pension shouldn't be the only one addressed in discovery.
OwnIt has given you some very good advice. Give him the paperwork and have him complete it. If things are missing that should be addressed, point that out to your lawyer and let him/her address that with his lawyer.
I remember when I went through this and the minute my xh realized that he wasn't going to bully me into giving him everything he wanted...he went into major monster mode. He tried to everything from bullying to then switching to nice guy and when that didn't work...back to bullying. I'm not trying to scare you, but they usually do not wake up when the situation gets real. I haven't seen too many of them play nice when they realize that their wallet is being affect in a major way.
Stay strong and positive, and do not allow him to bully and/or threaten you with anything just to get his way. When speaking to him, stay on point, calm and look him in the eye.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
