The divorce is just a piece of paper and believe it or not, the emotional pain won't end when you've signed and dated on the dotted line. It will take some time to get your footing again.

For myself, I discovered that once the papers were signed, a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders because I knew my xh couldn't threaten and or attempt to bully me any longer. But I had a lot of financial stuff that needed to be sorted out and was only given 60 days to refinance my house or put it on the market. I was very lucky that my father loaned me the money to buy him out, and in turn, I refinanced my home through the exact same mortgage company very quickly once I explained what was going on.

Don't do anything hasty when you are emotional. Sit quietly and think about what you want to do. If you are sure that you want to go ahead w/a divorce, then we will be here to support you.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.