Im having a complicated affair

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I agree with Rayanne about the twisting of statistics. The 80% statistic for infidelity is not supported by actual studies using random representative sampling.

In fact, actual studies show that married men and women are far more likely to be faithful than unfaithful. For example, the prestigious 1994 University of Chicago study, which is one of the most recent comprehensive and scientifically accurate studies of sex in America, cites statistics for faithfulness in marriage of 75% for men and 85% for women. Here's the link to the press release for the study: University of Chicago Study Disputes Myths About American Sexual Habits

Also, here's a link to an article from the archives of smartmarriages.com discussing another study from the University of California with similar findings: Infidelity Statistics .

As you can see from this article, the people claiming that more married people are unfaithful than faithful are authors of popular books rather than scholarly articles or books. They're not research scientists or statisticians. Rather than use actual findings from rigorous research studies, they rely on speculation, guessing, personal beliefs, ad hominem attacks (for example, claiming that the study subjects must be lying), and self-selected sampling surveys.

And, when faced with evidence from scientifically rigorous random studies that contradicted their writings, these authors simply pooh-poohed that evidence. After all, it's harder to sell a book titled "The Monogamy Myth" when the evidence shows that monogamy is alive and well and statistically likely to be the norm for married people in America.