Divorce or leaving isn't always the answer. I speak this from the other side of the fence. Issues that have lingered are issues you need to address and be honest about with yourself and your W.
Don't look at it as being on any "team." I in no way support divorce as a solution to any problems, although I am divorced. I divorced for many reasons, many of which were legal and some of which belonged to my ex--he demanded it because honestly, he had the same mentality you did. He did not have the faith it took in himself to address the problems in our M. I tried to hold on to that faith. We cannot make someone do that which they do not wish, and my ex had to have the D. So, he got it and wasn't happy with it that either.
The issues you may be confronting most likely have no roots in your M. Your M may have made the issues appear worse or difficult. There's no such thing as a perfect relationship where both will always be happy. Life throws crap in our paths and we have to deal with it. How we deal with it is what makes the difference.
What have you done to address the issues you have, not just to justify them? Complaining that there's a hole in the sidewalk that you always walk down, and then fall into the hole doesn't address the issue of the hole you find yourself into.
Don't seek sympathy. Seek understanding, WC. That's pretty difficult to do at times. Understand yourself and your motives. Understand that what you perceive as a lack of sympathy here is not necessarily a bad thing. Often times your greatest supporters will be those who will give you a dose of reality.
That said, what have you done for the issues you're facing? Have you picked up a copy of DR and read it? Have you seen a counselor and have been just as honest with a C as you have here? Have you talked to your wife without blame laying and with honesty? None of this says you shouldn't divorce. Sometimes, divorce is the best solution in some situations. But it's not a decision that solves the issues that contributed to your failing M, either. It just sounds to me that you're not happy or content with something in your life and seem to be afraid to confront that problem.
