Usually it was, like yesterday.....I got home and the dishwasher is relatively empty, and there are dishes she's used sitting in the sink.I could feel the old man coming up as I started to think that it was ridiculous and that it started to upset me. Then I remembered......IT DOESN'T MATTER. It is no big deal! Take the 2 minute and rinse them and put them in the dishwasher out of love for her. Because I love her immensely.
She came home a few minutes later and said: "HON! I was going to take care of those dishes." I said: "Its ok, I can help out around here."
I have had very few slip up in the last two years, maybe twice when I didn't catch it before I started to behave in my old pattern. But then I caught it corrected it, and if necessary apologized for it.
Life is so much better today..............
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
