This is the question that has me pause and think alot.
I've really stepped away from identifying myself as "standing." What does that mean in my situation? If I continue in limbo, am I standing, or am I perpetuating a situation that leads nowhere? If I file for D, am I (counter-intuitively) standing for my MR, because I am standing up for myself and my basic needs (more time with the kids, better financial situation)?
Well, I would let her do all the D work. Unless you're ok with knowing that you filed for D when it wasn't what you wanted in the first place.
Playing devil's advocate here - the kids would grow up knowing their Dad was the one that initiated D, regardless of counter intuition or not.
Something to think about, anyway.
Is there any way you can alleviate your financial situation with the house/expenses without jumping right to D? Is there a way to separate those two issues, or are they intertwined?
Originally Posted by unchien
NO I am not standing anymore.
2x4 - you are gonna do what you want to do, and I respect that. Just make sure this isn't an emotional decision.
Originally Posted by unchien
I guess I see it like this: AMOAFWL would work to get fair time with his kids and a fair financial situation.
If that is what you see as AMOAFWL, then that's what you need to do. For me its leaving everything out there and knowing that I tried my damndest to do all I could. It's different for all of us.
Our situations seem to diverge here, so I don't know how much more help I can be.
