I don't think bk is beating up on you at all...she's just pointing out some things she has learned to be facts in the world of relationships.
as far as you being on the opposing team? I don't see how you are much different from the rest of us here cept for the fact that you are certain you don't want your marriage to contiue.
Perhaps that is what confuses most of us here...you are certain you don't want to be married to your w then why come here? other than to offer advice to those also dealing with partners involved affairs and then what purpose would that serve to you other than to turn your guilt around.
oh and since you claim that there are other "issues" involved in the m besides ow and you know that you may not end up with ow (she does after all intend to stay with her h) what are some of those issues?
