I can tell you want to save this. My advice is to quit telling her to move out. You've told her so many times that it is just showing her that she hurts you still and you are prodding her to file. She doesn't have to move out.
Her going to the same gym as OM? Well don't y'all live in a small town? I wouldn't give it a second thought.
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Now, "JJ", you know my W may say she is committed just to get me to go but I do believe she is pushing harder for us to go since the new year.
That's right. You won't know for sure for a long time. I think your pain comes out towards her in negative ways most of the time and she fires back every time. If you want to save it I think you need to 180 here.
I know many will think I'm being too soft, I'm not advocating for you enabling her.
Is your W walking away from you and couldn't take the fights anymore and found an affair? What started the affair?
The affair was started because her emotional needs were not being met. I was never around. I coach so I am gone most of the time. Days off or on the weekends I would play a lot of golf. We never ever had fights or arguments. Intimacy had gone down as well and as you can tell from my story this is a big one for my wife. If she could have it her way she would be intimate everyday. She even suggested us doing an everyday challenge a few years back.
It is hard to see this thing being saved without me losing my sanity because she has not and will not end her affair. If it were to be saved it is going to take us splitting up and eventually getting back together once we work on ourselves. I have begun fantasizing somewhat about the idea of being single. She is going to have to experience real life being single and with this guy for her to ever wake up and see reality and what this has done to our family.
