js, a lot of LBS struggle with this stuff. Yours truly did as well. What I can tell you is that, while these are no guarantee because a WAS is going to do what they want, these DBing techniques that MWD advocates have worked in other situations. It is counter-intuitive, so it scares LBS into thinking they are going to push their WAS away. Or upset them. Or double down on the behavior that got them there.
But think about it logically. She left and wants out. She has essentially told you "I want less of you". And your response to that is to try to give her more of you? Doesn't make sense. You are giving her what she doesn't want. Have you ever told someone you didn't want something to eat, maybe a piece of cake or something? And they insisted. It annoyed you didn't it?
The LRT IS detachment. It is like the ultimate version of detachment. The not responding to messages that does not require a response is simply giving her less of you....like she has asked you to!
Have you read DR? DR goes into a pretty lengthy explanation of what circumstances suggest it is time to go LRT. I believe your sitch is there. Don't take my word for it, read about LRT in DR and see for yourself.
Hang in there man, you are going to be fine no matter what the outcome is.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
