[SteveLW]

So Steve just to clarify you our advising someone who has been threatened with D four times to pursue and ask for sex?

I knew you wouldn't like it. LOL

No what I am advising him is to improve himself as a person, and as a husband. And not to do just to say: "Well, I tried that, check it off the list." Improve himself FOR him.

He has a W that is on the fence. Just like my W was right before we moved to Ring and piecing.

I guess the last post could be characterized as pursuing....however I like to think of it more as expressing a need. Oh, and again, this is just for ScottB's specific sitch and is not for sitches in general.

But I hear you LH. Do I think he should go home and say "I want you right now, let's go into the bedroom?" No. But it is where it can move to ONCE you drop the NGS act, and once you start showing love to her in her language.