wayfarer.......just an observation. A guy that likes to "keep the door open" with exes? That is a HUGE red-flag. If you were someone I knew and you told me the guy you were planning on marrying was still friends with his exes I would have warned you that there is a highly likelihood that he will cheat on you one day.
"He brought the friends thing up again last night with a qualifier of "I know not right away. I know it'll take some time. I know how you are." There's like this weird anticipation that he can keep this door open no matter how much I say if this ends in divorce there is no friends option."
This will be important: stop saying it and when the time comes just do it. He sounds like the type that will occasionally ping you after D "just to see how you are doing". Your actions in that will be extremely important. Personally, I would not even respond to those kinds of things. And would block his email address, phone #, social media or whatever communication mode he is using at the point.
wayfarer, can I ask a question? Why does this guy still deserve you?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
