Well yesterday she decided to start taking a yoga class at the gym where the OM works out. Seems like another way of showing disrespect toward me. Don't know. My really close friend and mentor has advised me that I need to file for D. He thinks it is the only way I will heel and gain respect back for myself.
I will say something that used to be said a lot here. How do you feel about open marriages? Guess what, you are in an open marriage - not by choice.
I know this is probably against DB, but what she is doing is akin to emotional abuse. If she was being physical abusive would you let it continue? Would just act as if you are getting on with your life while this happens?
You are going through f the trauma of infidelity. Unfortunately, it will take a long time to get over this. You CAN DO it. You need to be prepared for the fact that the D isn't a quick fix to instantly get your respect back. It will be a step along the way. An important step.
As far your W suggesting counseling. I don't even know where to begin. I can't tell if she's legitimately messing or legitimately confused? I think you have a long way before thinking about counseling. It seems that she doesn't want to do the work prior to going to counseling.
joejoe1 has it right.
I can't remember - do you have a lawyer yet? Because if she's ranting about getting a lawyer, it's great to say have your lawyer contact my lawyer.
