Hi Cardinal- Thank you for your comments. Small things for myself seems so boring-I am really stepping out of my comfort zone. I will go to the bookstore and look at new titles. It gets me away from the house and him. I have spent so many years making our home a sanctuary-comfortable to stay in, I sometimes just want to kick back. If feel if I do, I’m not a mystery to him. I think cooking might be a good idea. Try out things I’d like that I don’t need to see if he would like. He and I only have shared a meal on Christmas in the last 8 months. It’s just so crazy. I really am living with a roommate that we move like strangers in the home. I also am making plans for the weekend, this is my GAL and I do look so forward to those two days. In the beginning, I hated them now I love two days devoted to me, the queen! When I think of how the marriage has changed to this in the last eight months it’s insane. But that marriage is over and hopefully onto a better one. Thanks for letting me ramble!