If he's not brought up the separation/divorce, then let it be. The more you give him space and time, the better. Sometimes they will use the "divorce" word to get us to back off and just leave them be. They do like to have control and threaten us at times just to reel us back in and keep us right where they left us pre-crisis. ....
Dig deeper for patience and keep the focus on you. Sit quietly and the answers will come...but if you aren't in a hurry for a divorce...don't bring it up. If he does, then you can address it.
So H sent me via email financial discovery forms to start the S process...I am very confused as to what to do next. I have started my search for a lawyer...but realized that something doesn’t feel right here. Since Nov he’s been threatening S/D and specifically said his Lawyer was going to reach out to me. That never happened. Now he sends these papers and has left MAJOR assets off. I asked if this was from his lawyer and he said yes. My gut says it is not even though there is a L name at the top of pages...it’s too sloppy. How do I navigate this? I don’t know if this is just another push me away tactic after the holidays where family and friends might have tried to reason with his baffling decision or whether it’s legit and I need to comply as not to look bad in the eyes of the law. There has been little to no conversation between us since prob Nov/Dec And the last convo where I asked him if he was sure he wanted to dismantle our lives like this did not go well when I mentioned certain assets. I don’t want to get “tricked” into retaining a lawyer or progressing his wishes along when he could be MLC lying ....Any advice for how to proceed?
