My H was like that. Looked and acted normal generally. Avoided serious talks. Until he started to self-destruct.
Woosa- how long after BD did self destruct start and what did that look like for you/H ...should I find your thread? My Hs behaviour often makes me feel like I’m crazy and that this isn’t MLC and that he will just carry on his merry way because it’s what he said he will do in the beginning and throughout.
[quote=peacetoday] When they see we are OK, it makes it easier for them to transition out.
This is exactly how I feel....and is truthful one of my big insecurities if I’m being honest with myself. In the beginning when things were very bad and I was in awful shape, he stayed around and tried to be compassionate and “help” me but then just couldn’t do it anymore as the monsters in his head seemed to take over. I often feel like if I wasn’t doing well he would feel the need to take care of me. This is 100% my weak voice talking from a desperate place. 5 months in I’m finding it easier to silence this voice, but some days it’s hard to keep the head high and shoulders back.
