HopeCA - big hugs to you and wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I find myself tearing up as I read your posts especially these last few. I am in a very very similar situation (almost in the identical spot/timeline as Cardinal) I have read your thread. I was just forwarded financial discovery papers a couple days ago and imagine that D will be in my near future. My heart hurts for you because like many on here it is the hope that we hold onto that keeps us strong but it can also be so crippling when our H intentionally or unintentionally (‘cause who knows where their minds are at) can dangle hope with loving behaviour and then yank it just as quickly with heartbreaking words. The signs are very difficult to read because they are so inconsistent...I’m learning that this is why I have to get off of his rollercoaster. My H too is very easy going and will always take the path of least resistance so reading your posts I completely understand how you are feeling. I feel like if I ignore him he will continue to run without looking back, but when I give him attention he doesn’t seem any different. I too am learning how to detach even more. Please take care of yourself and D...Hugs.
