Newlywed and in crisis

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Update

Several things have happened, we are living separately for the time being.

What has lead to that?

Well we were staying at my parent's house over the weekend. On friday, W expressed that she was feeling sad. I didn't know what to reply to that without going into R talk and making it worse, so I just said "okay" and didn't pursue it further. It was the best that I could do.

At the house we both kept to ourselves. I was detaching as normal. She was feeling down and awkward in the house because my family knew about our situation and she was too afraid to talk to them about it. Basically, she was still frustrated with the fact that I told my family on my own without her and now she feels awkward to talk to them. We basically ended up talking about it and then that let to R talk. She mentioned that she doesn't love me, doesn't want to continue to be married to me, doesn't want my kids. I was triggered and went with the "what your doing is sinful" argument (bad mistake on my part). We argued for a while and at the end she asked to be sent home. Her parents came by and picked her up to stay with them.

So currently, I am staying at my parents' and she is staying with hers. I do not know for how long. After that argument, I needed time to heal and contemplate.

Thinking back, I got the feeling that she was feeling down and awkward around the house and dropped hints that she wanted me to be more accommodating. At the time I was oblivious to this of course. I was too preoccupied with detaching and giving her space. It doesn't make sense to me. After everything hurtful she that she said to me, how does she expect me to still be nice to her?