What do you do to flip that switch between leading the marriage, and hearing her ?
First I remember to listen to her. And then I will repeat back to her in my own words what she said. I do this especially if she is expressing feelings.
I then remember what I learned in IC: my way is A way, not THE way to do something.
But most of all I remind myself all day everyday how much I love her, which is immensely!
And when I feel the old man creeping back up, I remind myself of my love for her.
Mach, it isn't perfect. But it is many times better than it used to be.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
