In short, when I ask for an extra night with the kids, she says no because I might need childcare help for a couple hours. But then she is using help herself. If I point this out, she gets upset, says "This is the schedule that YOU wanted" and then the conversation goes nowhere.
In other words the status quo remains
Originally Posted by unchien
Text doesn't work based on our history. I've tried e-mail but she rarely responds. We haven't had a 1:1 F2F at a neutral place like a coffee shop since we S'd.
In other words there has been no good communication to change the status quo
Originally Posted by unchien
Hi may ~ Idk, I am considering proposing that we set a specific topic list and go back to MC2 to discuss just those topics. Kid schedule for the next 2 months. Childcare spending. If we deviate from those topics (and she takes it back to child safety concerns), I will not participate.
If you don't participate, does it change the status quo?
Do you see a pattern here? Do you think your wife has any incentive to change the status quo given how biased it is in her favor?
