I think most of us would have similar feelings. This isn't something that will likely happen next week or in the next couple of months. I wouldn't get too hung up on that at the moment. For now, take one day at a time. Try to relax and breath, otherwise you are going to overwhelm yourself.
I don't think it would be productive to continue a discussion about his travel plans now, unless he is buying airline tickets. My suggestion would be to focus on today.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa