Peace and joy continue to beckon

[Grace21]

Resolving the finances (whether through separation/divorce/etc) is the legal split and it doesn't have to be a forever thing. You get to decide when to have the emotional split. They don't have to be together. You seem like an "ifer" at this point. Like there is a certain set of circumstances where you could conceivably reinvest, but it changes moment-to-moment. Very reasonable and understandable position.

This is a very good reminder. Thank you. The agreement and/or D is a business transaction. I think part of my problem is I still think D will allow me to totally move on. But, of course it’s not true. I can do that with or without the piece of paper. I will proceed carefully and thoughtfully.

Imagine when you don’t dwell on the wrongs because there aren’t any wrongs. Just things that a very hurting person did.
That is forgiveness.

I believe I mostly recognize and believe the latter. But, as people of faith know, satan is always looking for an opportunity to bring people down. Whether it be to sin, despair, anxiety or ruin (of the soul). I’m beginning to see my regression as those attacks. Once recognized, we can fight and overcome them. That’s what I need to focus on to come to the place of full forgiveness, I think.

Our dialogue on forgiveness, DnJ, has prompted me to read and research a bit about it. This is from a theologian. I thought of you because long ago you wrote about being in a prison and what that release looks like. I used that analogy with H some time ago. I think it struck a chord with him.

“Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to discover that prisoner was you.”

I want to be free.

I will be free.

Grace