He's still helping - still at the house right now while I spend time away. He is going to find a way to work his schedule so I can do a 10 day silent mediation program next week. He's still doing firewood. Wants to maybe move back in in 6 months when we've had a chance to heal. Is signing over the house to me and walkng away with only the car. And says he will always have space for us and will always help when he can. I make more money than he does but he is also willing to pay extra child support.
I feel overwhlemed with all the changes... I am still left with 5 acres of land and an unfinsihed basement suite that needs to be finished so I can rent it out... all the bills and having my son the majority of the time, still trying to sell my business and am on medical leave as I can't fathom going back to work at this point - we live on a small island meaning that I commute to work on a 30 min trip ferry each day - I am too overwhelemed to be back at work just yet.
ALthough I still feel conflicted about having him move out - we were both angry and hurt in that moment... we have hurt between us that hasn't healed... and we were trying to live together in the same space while we worked on the basement suite... I still feel very conflicted.
I hope that by him living elsewhere he can do his "single" life and I can heal my own life and figure out how to do this mostly without him. Maybe that will actually enable us to find true healing.
With a heavy heart, but hopeful for the changes to come all around...
WestM
Me 41 H 34 Son 3.5 Married almost 4 years West Coast of Canada
