wc I have to agree with Mark. Ofcoause her M is going to on the rocks and so will yours as long as the affair goes on. Neither one of you can work on your M as long as you hide from what you are doing.
You need to do alot of soul searching and find youself. Find out what went haywire in your life. You say that you stopped being attracted to your wife. Do you know why? Or is it something that you just chalked up as a fact of life.
Get a pen and paper. Write down what all you love about your wife when you got together and what has made you fall out of love. No rose color glasses here.(don't let the R with OW tint your view) Now take a look and see, is the anyway you can met W in the middle here. Sex ho hum, how abaout mixing things up. If you arn't getting enough attion else whare, look it to hobbies that ya can do. Anything that will get ya talking and spending time together.
But before you try to work on your M or your affair. You need to get youself in order.
