A follow up. This forgiveness is very near and dear to me.
My need to be right was adjusted.
Our default in confrontations seems to be competition. Our need to be right is also a need for the other to be wrong. That’s not a big surprise, we’re programmed that way - right/wrong, pass/fail, true/false, and such.
To defuse my “need” to be right started with just “be right”. That’s not quite as it sounds. I mean live right. Live in the light. Be honest, sincere, open, compassionate, empathetic - like you are doing.
With that living and some effort I change my views, my beliefs about right and wrong; perceptions and truths and realities.
Being right, our ego’s need, doesn’t require our spouse to fail or be wrong; it’s not a requisite.
Change right to valid.
Both views can be valid. Both views are valid.
Have a great day.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
