I can see how your relationship with your wife pales in comparison to the one with OW. You exchange glances at work, cute little passing remarks or stealing some play in a stairwell. I have to admit it sounds exciting. If you strip all that away what have you got? Now you go home and the reality of three kids, a wife you are not attracted to and loneliness is there to greet you. Based on my imagination I can see how you can look past the OW's issues.
What makes you think that the pattern just won't repeat itself with the OW or any OW for that matter? Your 38 and your wife is 43 correct? How old is your co worker? Don't you see the big red flag the OW is flying? She remarried the man she divorced for the sole reason being financial and possibly some baby sitting. Now I don't know the whole story behind OW's divorce but I can bet neither do you. I would say you have a complicated affair going there. What is it that you really want?
