Originally Posted by HankScorpio
Thank you.

How would you recommend that I tell her I’m sleeping back in the bed? She stated that she didn’t want to confuse the kids with us still in the same bed and had offered to sleep on the couch herself. Should I let her do that and start sleeping in the bed?
Yes.

You just do it. If(When) she asks:

W"What are you doing???"
H"I decided I like it here better"


Then listen and validate her FEELINGS.

W"Bla bla bla bla"
H"I am sorry you feel that way"

or

W"Bla bla bla bla"
H"I can see why that would make you angry"

Read the validation thread many times. Another Stander is the validation king.
https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2870386


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712