8 years ago it was tons of fighting and yelling and screaming. This time around she says she is checked out. You are correct. I learned nothing last time. I got what I wanted and stopped.
As I said this past year was difficult but these last 4 months were the worst. Even though she had told me she is done, in December we did stuff with just the two of us and as a family. Most were enjoying but then I would press the R and she would shut down. I was drinking way to much as well and it did not help. I’m 6 days without a drink now, longest oven been in years.
As another poster said, it is a common problem with LBSs. I too am guilty as charged. Went through my first sitch in 2005. Changed to get her back. Then did a slow burn back to the same poor behavior setting up BD#2 in Dec. 2017.
Learn from not learning, and learn this time. DBing is about saving yourself. Without doing that you will never have long-term success in a MR.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
