AS/ Steve - You are both right of course. I am fearing the D. Its a conditioning of society though. Divorce sounds final, and for a lot of people it is. What i need to do is swallow the fear, own it and realise it is a path that my W probably needs to take before she can find her happiness again. Whilst not specifically mentioned in correspondence with her or indeed F2F, its something i need to be prepared for. I'm not exactly going to embrace it, however i will approach it with calm, and kindness. I'm glad i posted my fear though, because i do feel empowered to think. I've been mentally preparing a response to my W email, which having read your posts above have me cause to change my approach.
I will post in here a first draft, for critique, because whilst i am in this situation i know everything coming my way is likely to be worse before it gets better, there is also an opportunity for me to grow, solidify my changes, challenge my instincts and show the best version of me. Its action.
