Question, is it normal for the the GALing to piss the wayward spouse off? I've noticed he's been making some really snotty/passive aggressive comments about my running, my diet changes, and social media posts where I'm tagged out with friends (I am not like hanging on randos at the bar, I've mostly been 3rd wheeling with married friends, being in larger groups of married people, or with just my girl friends). I've been ignoring it. But yesterday he walked into the MBR and said "you bought a new scale?" (this thing was like $15 so it clearly wasn't about the money) I said "yup," and just kept eye contact. As much as I wanted to ask why I knew I shouldn't. After an uncomfortable amount of eye contact he finally broke gaze and said "oh" and turned around and walked out. It was a super weird interaction. I didn't think GAL would irritate him.
Yes. Very common. Believe it or not the WAS still likes to have control over the LBS. Even though they are leaving them. He is used to certain dynamics in your relationship with him. When that changes, they start feeling that loss of control. You are Plan B, and he wants his Plan B firmly in place in case Plan A fizzles or never materializes. When you GAL he feels like Plan B is going away. This scares him and he will start acting out towards you. I wrote a few days ago to another poster about this very dynamic.
So the short answer is yes. Keep GAL. Like a mad woman.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
