We have mediation booked for Jan 20th, which is being driven at my W behest. I'm making her to the leg work on how she wants things to pan out. She has just sent me the below e-mail:
"Hi
I was wondering whether you wanted to have a chat before our mediation appointment about how we can possibly sort things out in terms of house / finances.
I appreciate we need guidance, that is what the mediation is for however the appointments are expensive so whatever we can sort together, amicably without the need of extra appointments would probably benefit both of us….
If you want to leave it to mediation that’s fine – I just thought I would ask the question…."
So far we have split finances 50/50 in terms of household bills/mortgage/insurances etc and pay these from our Joint Account. We have had the House valued and she has indicated that she wishes to buy me out of the house (although i have no idea how she will fund it, but not my problem), however i'm hesitant to agree or even discuss this in view of my wish to R.
My immediate thoughts on responding to this would be leave it until our first mediation, and then discuss after (if at all amicably) what we can to sort as much as we can. However, i don't want to impede or damage any potential for R by replying from an emotional state just now so would welcome any thoughts, guidance etc that would help me acknowledge, that recognises the path she wishes to follow for now. I'm starting to question whether i should just throw in the towel, give up......but i don't want to.
