Peace and joy continue to beckon

[DnJ]

Hello Grace

I like what you wrote about your level of forgiveness. And I am very happy to see you sharing it with me. Oh and everyone else reading along. Boy, I sure do tend to forget and write as if I’m speaking to just the one person.

I really believe I've forgiven

Excellent.

Then what happens?

I get a mean streak and want terrible things to happen to H.

Why?

I dwell on all the wrongs against me.

(((Grace)))


The mean streak is understandable. Caused by dwelling upon the wrongs H did to you.

Forgiveness takes practice. What gets in the way is our ego. Our need to be right. Our need to judge others. Our kingship or queenship that we perceive as all controlling in our lives. Our need to rebalanced the scales. Our desire for fair play. Our need to achieve all this. Our being defined by that need.

Ego is a good thing. It is our sense of self-importance. It is our self-esteem. It is the “I’ in our book of life.

Ego also likes to write in big bold letters.

The wrongs H did to me. Let that go. Alter your ego. Define yourself differently.

You have compassion and empathy. To your core, for almost anyone. Anyone but H. Because your ego can’t let him be right. You need to be right. Give ego a different pen.

My friend, there is no right or wrong. There is only perception of the beholder.

You get your ego to see that and forgiveness will remain much longer and longer. You are getting there, you believe in compassion and empathy, you are walking the path. I see it. I have faith in you.

I really believe I've forgiven

Excellent.

Your need to be right alters your beliefs. Our situations are highly charged on a personal level. This make the ego in direct competition with our empathy. Alter the ego, and allow forgiveness to win.

Imagine when you don’t dwell on the wrongs because there aren’t any wrongs. Just things that a very hurting person did.

That is forgiveness.

DnJ