I’ve been crying and thinking for hours. I reread the last few pages of my old thread. I think that while I succeeded in bringing H closer and rekindling a bit of what was lost, as Bluwave pointed out, people need to feel the loss to miss something. I think that a few months ago my H couldn’t see any positives and didn’t feel much warmth between us or toward me. That has changed to some degree. I felt, and still feel, that was a very important piece. I measure the success of it by the way our interactions have changed, that he has wanted to be around a lot more, and that he did express wavering about the D. I think my only option at this point is to do what’s required of me legally, and to now 180 on the family time and friendly stuff. I’ve shown him what we have that’s worth missing, and now it’s time to buckle down and let him (hopefully) miss what we’ve had lately.
Blu- What does that look like? How do I do that without coming across as cold or angry?
