I've recently bought a new condo and have moved in. The excitement and pre-occupation with decorating etc has been a welcome distraction for me.
Congrats on the new place!
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However, now that I'm settling in, the loneliness has been pretty hard to overcome. I find myself really missing my ex and ruminating on all our good memories. I try hard to remember all her negative qualities in an effort to detach, but I still miss her terribly. For those of you who haven't followed my sitch, I was with my ex for 9 years and she has left me 4x.
I think that's probably to be expected, you've gone through a ton of change in a short amount of time. You lost your W, moved to a different place, now you're trying to adjust and of course you will long for your "old normal". It'll take a while until your "new normal" just becomes your "normal", but once it does I think you'll be much more content.
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In a nutshell, I feel stuck. I know GAL is imperative to turn my mindset but I don't feel like doing much of anything.
Sometimes you just have to make yourself. How much time do you spend at the gym? Maybe put more time in for a while. On the weeks I didn't have my kids I would spend 1-1/2 to 2 hours there doing a mix of strength training and cardio. Then I would go home and make dinner, eat and go to bed. I didn't need to spend that much time in the gym, but it helped keep me occupied. Do you meal prep? Maybe try that if you haven't, it takes a lot of time and research. Good activity to keep you busy, and really good for you too. Eventually I added more activities so I wasn't just living in the gym. Started painting more, working on sculptures, building R/C planes, messing with my motorcycles, etc. I literally pushed my XW right out of my head with GAL.
