Hi AS, Thanks for your response. I think I’m getting tripped up because H isn't walking out the door and he’s not asking for S or D, guess he’s not full blown WAS or MLC, he’s just angry and unhappy, largely due to the move not working and he was saying that my emotional reactions and unwillingness to work harder or try harder to make it work were the largest reasons why it failed. So, naturally I am questioning myself, and taking on the blame. He’s made me the enemy. But in my original thread I said that the feasibility for staying just wasn’t happening and we all needed stability especially the kids. H thinks stability could have been built over a longer period of time but my feelings were that the risk was too great. H had been trying to bait me into admitting that I never wanted to move, which isn’t true, I had some reservations but I was on board. H thinks I was too negative when we were there and that’s the reason it didn’t work out. But all I can say in myself is that I’m relieved we moved back, the kids are in stable school situations, we have a house and I have a job to help contribute. But H is deeply unhappy. Another thing he said was something along the lines that I wasnt willing to sacrifice and work hard to stay there, but this doesn’t take into account all the crap that happened and the lack of a stable plan. It’s frustrating being the “bad one” and very disheartening
